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Andy Stanley – Life App #4 – Trust

These are my notes from Andy Stanley’s Life Apps series and this is message #4.   I thought this might be especially useful for churches preparing to move into a season of church construction.  If you don’t read anything else here skip to the bottom and read the 5 commitments North Point Community Church asks their team to make.   
 
This is Life App 4 – Trust -  Application makes all the difference.
 
How many of you have bought fitness equipment?  How many of you have read all or part of diet book?  
Buying stuff makes us feel like we’re making progress.  
 
In the spiritual realm we have the same thing when we come to church.  
We leave a worship experience and we feel like we’ve made progress…..but we’ve deceived ourselves.  We’re wrong.  
 
‘When our obedience intersects with Gods faithfulness, our faith grows.”
 

Life App Trust

The health and quality of your relationships depends on you ability to trust.  A big part of that is who you are, and what experiences you are bringing into every relationship you have.
 
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. [5] It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. [6] Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. [7] It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.   Love doesn’t try to catch people doing the wrong thing but tries to catch them doing the right thing.”
  
Love…It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
 
I’m going to do everything possible to protect.  I’m going to trust even when it doesn’t make sense.  I’m going to hope all things and endure all things.
Love, real love……bends.  It’s flexible and not rigid.  It bends, It bends, It bends.  Love gives them the benefit of the doubt.  Love looks for the most generous explanation for the other persons behavior.
 
Love chooses trust over suspicion.  We all have expectations and experiences and there is often a gap between expectations and experiences.  We decide what to put in this gap.  We can believe the best, or assume the worst.
 
The other persons behavior does not determine what you put in the gap.  You decide what you put on the gap.  You choose choose, because love bends,  it trusts , it protects
In healthy relationships, both parties go to ridiculous lengths to believe the best.  There is nothing gained by assuming the worst.  Things don’t get better when people understand that you don’t trust them.  Suspicion is an expression of rejection
 
Our hearts move towards acceptance and away from rejection.  That’s why assuming the worst is never a win.  Even when you have the facts to back it up.  Love endures all things, it protects all things….LOVE BENDS.   Once you begin to express suspicion the door on that relationship begins to close.   Do everything you can to trust.  The other person doesn’t force you to put something in that gap.  You choose.
 
When you can’t choose to trust, you must choose to confront.  
Instead of stewing on it we must confront. But we don’t.  We call our sister, (mother, brother, friend) and we talk about the gap and we get mad, and madder, and madder.  
When you just can’t believe any more, and you just can’t trust, you don’t fill it with suspicion you ask a question.  You have to ask for help from the person where there is a gap.  Confronting is asking for an explanation and assuming there is a good one.  You assume there is a really good explanation and you need to hear it and move on.
Being non-confrontational is not and excuse.  90% of people are non-confrontational.  Who really wants to be confronted by someone who is confrontational anyway. 
The longer you wait the worse the gap becomes and when you finally decide to confront it’s like a guiatine, and the relationship is over.
You say “I want to believe the best so I don’t want to wonder.”  By confronting you are keeping the door of the relationship open.  LOVE BENDS.  It always tries to protect and trust and when it just can’t anymore you confront.
 
5 commitments we ask our staff to make at North Point
 
1. When ther is a gap  I will believe the best.
 
2. When others assume the worst about you, I’m going to come to your defense.
 
3. If what I experience begins to erode my trust I’m coming directly to you. (The shortest route to relationship is to continue to communicate ” I want to trust you”.  The shortest way to determine who is untrustworthy is to trust them.  The shortest way to make someone untrustworthy is to fill the gap with suspicion.)
 
4. When I’m not going to be able to keep a promise I’m going to let u know ahead of time.
 
5. When you confront me about gaps I’ve created I’m going to tell you the truth.
 
Don’t you want people to believe the best about you?
 
Here are a couple places for you to start.
Ask yourself:
1. Do I have a hard time trusting people?  Get somewhere alone and assay out loud “I have a hard time trusting people”. You may be part of the problem.  Saying out loud may be a revelation for you
2. Who is it you have a hard time trusting.  You just can’t believe the best about them.  What would it look like in that relationship to bend.  It might throw the doors wide open.  
What could you do to break a cycle of a lack of trust.
 
LOVE BENDS and it’s the foundation of all great relationships.  
Are you willing to do what the Apostle Paul said to do and BEND.

7 Ways Smart Churches Are Using Social Media

What is your church doing to leverage Social Media?  Here are just a few things to think about as you move into the age of technological evangelism.

  1. Podcasts – If you don’t do anything else here, do this!  Podcasts are too easy for people to share with their friends.
  2. Blogging – Here’s how Athens Church (A North Point Strategic Partner) is using their blog to keep their congregation up to date on our renovation project.  Click Here and make sure you scroll down to see the pics.  Feel free to vote for the T-Shirt as well.  
  3. Vlogging – (Video Blogging) If people see that you’re a real person they’re more likely to connect with you.  Click Here to see my latest. 
  4. Twitter – 7% of Americans are on Twitter (the real influencers like you and I).   This is an easy way for you to add value to people every day.  If you do it well people will feel more connected to you.   FYI –Tweet stuff that matters. 
  5. Facebook – 42.3% of Americans are on Facebook.   4 OUT OF 10 PEOPLE YOU ARE TRYING TO REACH ARE ON FACEBOOK.    Somebody needs to be on this at your church.   Click Here to like my Facebook Fan Page.  (Keep in mind I have acceptance issues if you decide not to “like” me) 
  6. Youtube – My church (North Point Community Church) does this well.  Click Here to see what I’m talking about.   See how easy that is to share?
  7. Be Human – Our biggest challenge in reaching the “lost” is to stop thinking of them as lost people and start thinking of them as “my neighbor Todd”.   Using technology to bridge the gap between the people who love Jesus and “Todd” is THE most effective use of social media.

 

How is your church using social media to reach people?   Even if you never comment on blogs, don’t be stingy with your ideas.  Share the love Man!!!  If you’d rather send an email and have me post it, you can get me at rwchancy@cogun.com

3 Things That Stink About Lack Of Preperation

If you haven’t been reading my blog, you need to know I injured my back 4 weeks ago doing deadlifts at the gym.  I’ve also been training for the Publix Ga Half Marathon.  How do deadlifts fit into a half marathon training schedule you ask?  NOT VERY WELL!   So yesterday I showed up to run a race not having run in 4 weeks and the longest run I’d done was a 7 miler. 

Here are 3 Things that stink about lack of preparation
  1. WASTING YOUR POTENTIAL

The first half marathon I ran I finished in 1:57.  This one I came in at 2:16.  I have very real evidence that my potential is greater than my performance, you may not have the advantage of quatifying your potential like I did.  all the more reason to make sure you prepare.  

When I think about the churches I’m in, I see the construction of new facilities to be a great opportunity to get some of the people in the church to sit down and, maybe for the first time, organize thier finances so they can contribute financially to the project and be a part of what God is doing through the church.  As leaders in the church we’re responsible for the church reaching its potential during seasons like this.  You have to prepare by having a written plan of how you will engage the staffe, the influnecers, the volunteers, and the general congregation if you want to reach your potential.

2. THAT LITTLE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD

I saw a guy holding a posterboard that said “Pain is temporary”.  Right behind him there was a lady with a sign that read “But internet results last forever”.  The whole time I was running I found myself rehersing what I’m going to tell people when they ask what my finish time was.  Several of my close guy friends had planned to run the race and didn’t, and I was stressing over what I’m going to tell them.  They will ask ……but they don’t really care how fast or slow I am.  In fact, nobody cares!

That little voice in my head seems to be louder the less time I spend in prepartation.  Just like that little voice seems to wisper different things in my ear when I’m not connecting with God on a daily basis. 

Preperation for Church Construction takes on many different roles.  One of the most important is to have a clear understanding of exactly what God has called you to do in your community.  Every time that little voice pops up in a panic you can remind yourself, and your team that you are on a “mission from God” (Blues Brothers circa 1988).  Having a plan of how you will focus on Him when the tension rises is the best way to shut the little voice up.

3. PAIN & SUFFERING

About 2 hours after the race I could really begin to feel my39 year old body speaking to me (more of a speaking in tounges than that a wispering voice).  By last night I was rethinking my meeting schedule for today due to lack of ability to move.  You don’t always pay for lack of preparation in the moment. Sometimes it’s later, when it comes to building churches it can be several years down the road before you realize you weren’t properly prepaired. 

Not preparing for a race will cost me until the middle of the week maybe.  Not preparing your church for a season of church construction will cause you long term pain and suffering.  I spoke to a church last year that had to sell their facility and release the pastor because they built a building they couldn’t afford.   These are big, painful problems easily solved with a strategic preperation.

So that’s your three things, I learned alot more (funny how that happens when I don’t distract myself with an ipod) and I’ll share some of it down the road.  Before I let you go I want to add a bonus fourth thing I learned as well.      

4. Sometimes the juice is with the squeeze

Sometimes you just have to go for it.  I’m no longer talking about building churches.  However, sometimes opportunities present themselves and you just have to say yes.  I bailed on this race 2 years ago becasue of a knee injury and I questioned it for a long time.  I knew that I wasn’t prepaired and the race would be a painful experince.  My beautiful, and wise, bride Kristy kept asking me if this was “smart”.  I always said “nope, but I”m doing it anyway”.  Sometimes, even if you haven’t prepared properly, you have to keep promises you make to yourself because……. the juice is worth the squeeze. 

Tomorrow – Georgia Marathon Lesson 2

Tomorrow I’m going to talk about getting 18,000 people moving in the same direction while suffering for it.  Subscribe on the top left corner of my blog and have it come right to your inbox.

Church Construction – 6 Reasons Not To Bid

I AM BIASED!  And so are you.  We’re biased towards our churches, our communities, our kids….we’re even biased on the Mac vs PC thing (I”m a Mac guy).  We’re biased because we believe in our heart the way we have chosen is the best way.

With that in mind I want to give you my highly biased point of view on why you don’t want to BID a church construction project.  I’m biased because I believe Bidding is the precurser to some very predictable problems for a church construction project. 

Here are just 6  of the reasons I’m so biased toward a design build process
1. You’ll get a different church design

If you hire an architect right of the bat he’s going to do exactly what you ask him to do, which is translate the dream into drawings for a new facility.  The good ones will spend lots of time with your team hearing about your church and the specific desires that need to be addressed.  Some of them will even build a budget for you that includes some non-construction related items like furniture and audio.  What you don’t get is that healthy tension created when the church, who dreams it, sits with the architect, who draws it, and a construction consultant, who builds it.   There is a difference between someone saying it “should” cost this and someone who says I’ll actually build it for this.  The tension between Design and Affordability has to be managed from day 1

2. You don’t have a real price until the project is done

When a contractor submits a bid for a construction job their number is about 1 thing only,  winning the job.  Unfortunately most churches thing the bid number is the actual number the contractor is agreeing to build the church for.  If you don’t believe me ask any builder who bids if they would sign on the dotted line to finish the project for their bid price.   In reality you can’t expect a contractor to risk his business to guarantee tke price of a building where he had nothing to do with designing it.   With traditional BID project you won’t really know what the building costs until the project is completed (assuming you keep good records). 

3.  Banks want real info….quick!

Admittedly I don’t understand this fully.  We’ve built nearly 700 churches over the last 40 years and getting a church funded in this economy reminds me of the joy of my middle school years.  Banks want to see not just that your doing a capital campaign, but how you’re doing collecting on it.  They also ask us regularly for cost information on a church we’re all working with to build.   What I don’t understnad is how a church with a BID strategy is meeting that need the bank has for information when there simply isn’t any.  Bidding usually takes place anywhere from 6 to 14 months after the design begins.  That’s a long time to be casting vision without any real cost info.

4. Nobody’s managing the Non-Construction related costs

In the BID world Architects get paid to draw and Contractors get paid to build.  Its up to the church to manage things like the furniture budget, the AVL (audio, visual and lighting).  There are also things like permits and inflation as well as the “unexpected” cost (which you should expect).  Nobody in the BID process is charged specifically with driving the budget on these items.  BTW – the Non-Construction Items can easily cost 30-50% of the  total project cost. 

5. Project Drives the Budget

I’ve hit the numbers pretty hard here but I want to make one final point.  In a BID project the project almost always drives the budget.  That’s the equivalent to having a staff member who makes purchases for their area of ministry based on what they NEED vs what their budget allows for.   The best way to build a church is to have a firm understanding of what you can afford and move backward into a design. 

6.  Vision Blur

Let me make you a guarantee.  Your leadership will be challenged when its time to build.  No matter the path.   You want to do the absolute best job you can to be strategic in how you bring your staff, leadership and congregation in to what the church is trying to accomplish.  If you choose the BID route casting vision maybe something you find difficult and ever changing.  It would probably be wise to have a strategy that didn’t tie your vision to tightly to the price.  Vision Blur happens when you tell the people one thing and have to come back later and tell them something differnent. 

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CHURCH CONSTRUCTION – DESIGN YOU FIRST

D-E-S-I-G-N: Who Am I? Part 2

This is some great stuff for you to think about over the weekend from my good friend and mentor John Woodall who is the Pastor of  Care at North Point Community Church. If you didn’t see part 1 of the series Click Here and get caught up. 

Last time we looked at the first 10 areas that make all of us unique. Here are some additional areas.

11. Our Natural Gifts: Am I an artistic, athletic, academic?  

12. Our Spiritual Gifts: Romans 12:6-8 We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. [7] If it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; [8] if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.

13. Our education

14. Our experiences: This is our LifeMap. It is important to remember that God has been with us and leading all the time.

Deut. 8:2-3 Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the desert these forty years, to humble you and to test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands. [3] He humbled you, causing you to hunger and then feeding you with manna, which neither you nor your fathers had known, to teach you that man does not live on bread alone but on every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord.

15. Our spiritual pathway: There are many different ways to draw near to God. Some are intellectual, relational, worship, nature, contemplative, serving, and activist. (See Gary Thomas, Sacred Pathways)

Spiritual Pathways

http://www.faithbasedblog.com/2006/05/ortberg_outtakes_spiritual_pat.html

Spiritual Pathway Tool

http://www.fcogpunxsy.com/spiritual_pathway_assessment_tool.htm

16.     Our style of leadership: There are many different styles of leadership: Visionary, entrepreneurial, strategic, motivational, shepherding, role model and managerial

Finding Your Leadership Style

http://www.christianitytoday.com/bcl/areas/leadership/articles/le-8l1-8l1084.html

17.     Our style of ministry: Someone has suggested that there are different styles of ministry based on the offices of Christ.

a.    Prophetic disruptions

b.    Kingly leadership

c.    Priestly connection

18.    Our passion for ministry

19.    Our genius, highest and best use or our core competencies

20.    Our weaknesses

I believe that when we take the time to see how fearfully and wonderfully we are made, we come alive. We experience a peace and joy that is so fulfilling. Our hearts are at rest and we fulfill the purposes of God for our lives in our generation. How well do you know who you are and who you aren’t? Take some time to discover.

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